What is Destiny Tuning?
Destiny Tuning is simply is the art of focusing your energy, or your true essence in order to make your dreams a reality.
This explanation is a bit vague so I decided to break down what I learned from various books and programs into 10 easy to understand tidbits; to organize my thoughts and maybe help some of you folks out there that are curious about this new? aspect of the Law of Attraction.
10. Destiny Tuning is (Not Really) New
While Destiny Tuning may seem like some new secret that was just revealed, it has been around for centuries. The proof being that there are many people who have used the Law of Attraction and have manifested all their hearts’ desires. I read this Free Destiny Tuning PDF which explained it to me in further detail
9. Destiny Tuning PDF to Guide You (Its free)
This is one of the resources that help put the puzzle together for me. it provides some clear cut, simple information on how destiny tuning works and why it plays a crucial part in using the Law of Attraction to manifest what you want.
8. Destiny Tuning Is Half Of The Puzzle
Many people have read the book the Secret and are, or were enchanted with the idea that you could think of what you desire and it would magically materialize. The Secret, which is a great read by the way, explains that what you think of on a continual basis is what will materialize in your life. This is only half of the puzzle the other half is; you guessed it, Destiny Tuning.
7. Destiny Tuning is Love
The book, Love is Letting go of Fear showed me how to reprogram my mind. The premise is that there are only two emotions; Love and Fear. What ever you feel or experience is a product of either of these emotions. This a crucial element for destiny tuning because it is the alignment of your desires with positive energy which is LOVE.
6. The Type of Energy You Choose is Crucial
Hehe…Chances are that you didn’t even say the word but you surely thought about it. That’s OK, even thinking about the word conjures up positive images and a feeling of “lightness” (at least for me) as though the stress that weighs me down suddenly disappears into thin air. Now think about the word NO. Chances are feelings of negativity pop up out of no where, I know they do for me.
This may be a minor example, but the fact that these two simple one syllable words can evoke such difference in feelings so quickly tells me something.
Words and thoughts are extremely powerful, and not just think of what you want, but how you think of what you want.
Let me explain. The reason that The Law of Attraction does not work for many people is that they may know what they (believe they) want and they think about it and focus on it but it doesn’t happen.
Why? Because they are still focused on the negative. Remember number seven, Destiny Tuning is Love? Perhaps another way to put it would be that Destiny Tuning is positivity.
5. Like Energy Attracts Like Energy
I used to work as a telemarketer for a company that provided loans for businesses by giving advances on credit card purchases made for that business. Me and a couple of friends worked there together while I was in college
I know, I know I was one of those people that you love to hate, the ones that call while you where busy at work, trying to sell you something that you didn’t need. Just Kidding, I barely worked there for two months. Part of the reason for this is because I never got sales.
But I will always remember this guy that worked there named Mitch. He was one of the closers there, we would hook the fish(or were supposed to) and he would reel ’em in. This guy was a great salesman but pretty arrogant in my opinion, he had every right to be however because he was making thousands a week. I always wondered how he would be closing 4 or 5 sales a day and I got none the entire two weeks that I worked there.
Since studying the Law of Attraction and Destiny Tuning I figured it out…
Mitch would walk around the office saying “I’m Amazing and I’m the S@#$” and things of that nature. Me and my friends would be laughing silently and even mock him after work. It occurs to me all these years later that the reason Mitch was so successful was because he said these things and believed them. These affirmations gave him positivity and the people he talked to on the phone felt that and gravitated toward him giving him perpetual success. BE POSITIVE!!!
4. Destiny Tuning is Abandoning Your Ego for Your Intuitions
As kids we know what we want but as we get older we become materialistic and allow our possessions to define us, these possessions feed our ego. Everyone knows what an ego is, its that voice that you hear that ridicules you or praises you depending on what you think of your self.
If you think well of yourself, your ego praises you, if you think poorly, your ego shuns you and makes you feel as though you’re the scum of the earth…a little harsh? I know it is, but I also know that there are guys and gals out there that feel the same way sometimes, it might not be you, but believe me there are people that feel that way.
Remember Mitch from number 5? He was a pompous SOB but his ego fed into how he truly felt about himself and I don’t believe that anyone could make him change his mind.
Let me tell you a story…
I used to work at a pretty big department store a whiles back (yeah I’m one of those people with a million jobs prior.) Now naturally there were many people that worked in this store, the majority of which were female. There where some very attractive girls there.
In this store there was a make up section. These girls were some of the hottest women I have ever seen (with or without make up.)
Now from time to time I would run into some of them on the way to an from the lunch room or bathroom. One day on the elevator, I saw this girl from one of the make up stands. I noticed a tattoo of a Phoenix rising out of some fire on her arm.
“Nice tattoo, is that a Phoenix? She said “Yeah” and smiled at me “Is that you?” She turned and gave me a bigger smile and got off the elevator.
A few days later I passed her by the lunch room. “I’m sooo tired..I wanna go home!” she exclaimed to me when she saw me.”Get back to work!” I playfully chided her, she smiled and said: See you later.
I’m feeling like, “Damn, this girl likes me??” One of my coworkers passed me and said “Yo, who is that?” He looked exactly like Doug’s friend Deacon from the sitcom King of Queens. I swear my life is like a movie.
“Some girl from make up.” I stated nonchalantly “She’s to hot for you dude.” he replied with a sneer.
Confirmation. She was too hot for me. Guess what. I avoided her as much as possible because I “knew” she wasn’t into me.
A few weeks later the entire store was there after hours doing inventory. I saw my dream girl. She came up to me “Where have you been? I haven’t seen you in a while.” “I been here, work, school…” “Oh..there was an awkward pause and she walked away. I still saw her here and there and felt her looking at me but I allowed myself to believe what my coworker said to me.
Why did I tell you this?
Because of my lack of Love for myself I allowed my ego to be controlled by what others thought of me. This may be an extreme case but I know many people who allow their ego to tell them they need to impress other people. Even someone as confident as Mitch may have deeply buried insecurities that might control his or her life.
I say this because there is no need to be an obnoxious person but there is definitely a need for you to tell yourself that you are Awesome!
3.You need to think logically with your Heart.
I know it might sound like its counter intuitive but for Destiny Tuning and the Law of Attraction to work you need to follow your heart but also think logically.
Your gut instinct, or maybe you can even call it your conscience will let you know what is right you just have to learn to listen.
When the iPhone 2 came out I wanted one but my carrier told me that I wasn’t eligible for an upgrade at the moment.
I still wanted the phone, so I decided to look for sellers on Craigslist, bad idea in hindsight. I found one ad “IPHONE 2 UNLOCKED, NIB.” I clicked the ad:
Brand New In Box iPhone 2. $350
$350 Call Now #213 555 7263
It looked too good to be true! What a steal. My gut said to me: “No way that’s real! Don’t call.” My ego on the other hand chimed in: “Hey just check it out you know you need it. Think of all the girls you’ll get, it’s a conversation starter. Plus, you’ll be the envy of all your friends!
“Yeah, I’ll just check it out.” I thought.
I called the number….
Oh, I saw your ad about the phone.
The iPhone 2, how many phones you got?
I sell phones buddy!
Ok bro no need for hostility can I buy the iPhone?
Yeah. You got the cash?
Yeah. Meet me at Slauson Mall at two o’ clock
Damn! Slau….click BEEP BEEP BEEP….
I knew it was a bad idea. I knew Slausson Mall was no joke especially since I’m not from that neighborhood, Hell I don’t even associate with those kind of people. “Don’t go” I heard my conscience say to me. “But think of all the admiration and Girls!!”
I went. As I walked in a short light skinned guy with braids approached me. “Hey you the guy that wanted the iPhone.” “Yeah that’s me.” OK, I don’t have a stall here so we have to watch out for police.” “Ok.” I immediately felt a queasy feeling in my stomach, like I was going to be sick. “Oh yeah. I’m Rico by the way.” “Wassup..how you doing.” I replied nervously rubbing the top of my jeans pocket. “Yo. Don’t you know that you shouldn’t be wearing blue around here?” My stomach sank. “Damn, I knew I shouldn’t have come here.” I thought to myself. “Don’t worry about anything just look out for the cops, these n*&@#s won’t do anything, they know me. Lemme get the money.” I gave him the money. “Here.” He handed me a red plastic bag. I grabbed it. I felt heavy, I opened it and saw an iPhone 2 box.
“OH S$%# THE COPS!” Rico yelled and disappeared from view and I immediately took off running. I didn’t even stop to catch my breath as I heard footsteps and the fuzzy sound of walkie talkies behind me. I rounded the corner on a dime and saw a cab that seemed to appear out of no where. I jumped in it and told him “Echo Park! Hurry!” He took off and sped out of the parking lot.
I breathed a sigh of relief. “Yes I thought to myself. I got away!” I looked into the bag with a grin, like a kid on Christmas and grabbed the box. Felt good. I cut the tape and opened the box….
That’s what was in the box.
Why did I tell you this?
I decided to follow my ego and even though I knew I was placing myself in a precarious situation; I let my desire to impress people motivate my actions. I also was desperate for the iPhone.
Desperation and Destiny Tuning never intersect….
2. Look within…
Sounds cliche, but self examination is essential for effective destiny tuning and manifestation. By looking within, you find out not only who you are and what you want. You also find out what you don’t want.
Many times we give our power to make decisions in our lives over to people without even knowing it. Think about it. How many goals in your life are actually yours and how many of them are your goals because they will make someone else happy.
I know from my own personal experience that this is a recipe for failure.
I wasted (in my opinion) four years getting a degree that I do not use to this day. While I consider it an accomplishment, this degree is not something that I wanted to do. I really wanted to do music, but to make my parents happy, I went along with their wishes and got a Bachelors Degree. Now the only thing that this degree does for me is decorate a wall in my room.
Now I can’t really say that it was all a waste because I learned a lot about life and met some wonderful people along the way. However, going to college made me doubt who I was and what I wanted.
I had specific plans, but the plans I had did not fit in to what my parents wanted for me. By not following my own path I was miserable and this manifested itself in bad habits. I started drinking alcohol a lot, doing drugs and even got into very regrettable relationships with some people I would have probably never associated with had I been comfortable in my own skin.
In the state that I was in, it would be impossible for me to manifest what I desired. I can still remember the feelings of hopelessness and negativity that were regular guests in my life at the time. I can even recall times I just wanted to die.
I know that there are many people out there that feel the same way. I also know that there are people that have it seemingly worse or better than me, but comparing your life to someone else will only lead to your destruction.
That is why you need to look within and stop comparing yourself to anyone else. Pay no mind to people that compare you to another person they are very likely unhappy with their own lives.
1. Love Yourself
As you might have figured by now, Love plays a major role in destiny tuning. It might seem like I’m repeating myself, but when you realize how important Love is and how it changes your entire world you will understand why.
To truly love another person one must first love him/herself.
There are tons of people out there that “love” others and are nice to other people but they don’t love themselves. These people may continually find that they are being taken advantage of and wonder why this is the case. Not only are they being taken advantage of, they also blame themselves for being used and this leaves them in a vicious cycle of self loathing and abuse by others.
Even Jesus Christ had something to say about this:
“…’Love your neighbor as yourself.’
There is no commandment
greater than these.” Mark 12:31
We look to many things and people outside of ourselves for what we desire, when all the answers lie within us. We look to others for love and think by loving others and putting ourselves down that we will get love in return. This is never the case.
We must start by loving ourselves.
When you don’t love yourself most other people won’t love you. If you do not feel you deserve your own love why should they love you.
As humans we sense how other people feel. Sometimes we know how other people feel better than we know how we feel ourselves. I am positive we have all been around people that made us feel either uncomfortable or at ease and these people may not even say anything or even look at us. We get a “vibe” from this person that makes us feel this way. Don’t you think that people can sense how you feel, which is always a reflection of how you feel about yourself?
If you don’t feel love toward yourself, it will be less likely that other people will feel love for you. Since love is the most basic of positive emotions, like I mentioned in point 7, your life will harbor negativity if you don’t love yourself, even though you don’t mean for life to be negative it will be.
This negativity will create the perception that you are not worthy and that perception will become your reality.
Once you feel you are not worthy people you meet will feel the same way about you and any opportunities that life presents you to achieve your dreams will pass you by because you do not believe you are good enough. All because you do not love yourself.
You know what?
I hope that you enjoyed my thoughts on destiny tuning and the Law of Attraction. Another law that I think goes hand in hand with the Law of Attraction is the Law of Averages.
But we’ll save that for another time…
The books and guides that really helped me understand Destiny Tuning are:
- The Secret by Rhonda Byrne (good read, good intro to the Law of Attraction)
- Love is Letting Go of Fear by Jerry Jampolsky (Is a good book on Destiny Tuning, the Love aspect, It helped me learn how to think, was based on A Course in Miracles, I want to read this one and write my thoughts on it)
- The Bible (I think this is the original Manifestation guide book. Not all of it but there are some great parts on manifestation in it if you look. Yet another article to do)
- Manifestation Miracle by Heather Mathews (By far the most comprehensive guide to Destiny Tuning and the Law of Attraction I have used to date)
Thanks for reading, see you on the other side….
UNDERSTANDING THE LAWS
“…There are some laws that are universal. They have been around forever. They work whether you know them or not – whether you use them to your advantage or not. Laws work all the time irrevocably for everybody, irrespective of anything.
The force of gravity exists between all objects. This is the universal law of gravitation. Therefore, if you step off a building, no matter who you are, the force of gravity will pull you toward the ground.
The same holds true with the universal laws in this book. The laws affect every person in the same way. It’s important to gain an understanding of these powerful tools which will allow you to experience what you want out of life….”
Choice, not chance, determines destiny
bestselling author, columnist,
speaker and consultant
BOOK: The Millionaire Mindset
THE PERFECTION OF THE UNIVERSE
“…The universe operates perfectly. It’s mind-boggling when you think of everything that happens around you and inside you that you take for granted. Think about the oceans, the planets, nature, the gallons of blood pulsing through your veins and arteries. Each is a piece of perfection operating by precise laws.
When you learn how you fit and function in this precision, it’s much easier to appreciate who you really are and how you can create a wholly successful life. It’s time to celebrate your inherent greatness and to understand you were created perfectly. It’s time to stop limiting your abilities with your insecurities and inaccurate beliefs.
Each one of the laws in this chapter relates directly to your everyday life. It is not an accident that these laws exist, and no matter what your belief is regarding who or what created them,the laws are irrefutable. Understanding these laws and how you can use and coexist with them will forever change your life…”
“…Once you understand these laws as I do and understand thateverything is connected, they’ll take on a new meaning. They are like an exact map to follow. Once you read and think about eachof the laws, reflect on how you can apply it to your past experiences. Of course, in creating a masterpiece of the now and potential future, you should give each law even more, deeper consideration.
Take the time to consider and work in concert with these laws in your daily life and every action, and you’ll experience both joy and calm in your life….”
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A Practical and Spiritual Approach for Designing and Living
the Life of Your Dreams
You cannot break a law.
You can only break yourself against it.
Law of Perpetual Transmutation
Circumstances and things are perpetually coming or going according to your thoughts.
Law of Relativity
Your situation is not fundamentally good or bad until you compare it to something else.
Law of Vibration
Your thoughts control your personal vibration. Change your thoughts, get emotional about them, and you’ll change what is attracted to you.
Law of Polarity
Everything has an opposite. A bad situation is equally good. Look for the good, and more good will be on its way.
Law of Rhythm
When you feel down be assured that an upswing is coming. Plan on endless progression upward.
Law of Cause and Effect
Action and reaction are equal, in opposite directions. Focus on what you can give, not what you will get.
Law of Gender
Plant your own idea seeds, and then be patient. Don’t uproot your idea seed with doubt.
Vacuum Law of Prosperity
Nature abhors a vacuum. Make room for the thing you desire by giving away that which you do not like or use. Give it away, and let the Universe compensate you. God pays better than yard sale shoppers.
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SUMMARIES – UNIVERSAL LAWS
The Law of Attraction
Things of the same vibration or frequency are attracted to one another.Like attracts like.
The Law of Deliberate Creation
The recipe for consciously creating includes these ingredients:
1. Intuition: Being clear on what you want.
2. Desire: Unwavering focus on what you want.
3. Belief: Matching your beliefs with your desires.
4. Action: Making a move and paving it forward.
The Law of Allowing
I am that which I am, and I allow others to be as they are.
The Law of Giving
That which you give, you receive.
Book: Paving it Foward
THE SCIENCE OF GETTING RICH
The best definition of Natural Law seems to be that, “It is the uniform and orderly method of the omnipotent God.”
Unlike any other form of animal life that has been created, we were given the power of choice or free will; along with this power came certain responsibilities. The capacity to choose does not involve freedom from the consequence of our choice. The laws or rules which govern every individual, are as exact as the laws which govern the material universe. You can act in accordance with these laws or you can disregard them, but you cannot in any way alter them. The law forever operates and holds you to strict accountability, and there is not the slightest allowance made for ignorance. The Law of Attraction will deliver to you what you do not want as quickly and as certainly as it will deliver what you do want.
The ownership of money and property comes as a result of doing things in a certain way (by law). Those who do things in this certain way, whether on purpose or accidentally, get rich. Those who do not do things in this certain way, no matter how hard they work or how able they are, remain poor.
It is a natural law that like causes always produce like effects. Therefore, any man or woman who learns to do things in this certain way will infallibly get rich.
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The Science of
Self-doubt, however small, is one of biggest obstacles in your ability to give yourself the life that you want. It makes you send conflicting intentions and can undo the work you put in. It’s no wonder we like to hear others’ stories of how they turned their life around, got exactly what they want, and are now living their dreams. They provide confirmation and hope that anyone can indeed achieve greatness.
The problem is that unless you’ve known the person and been around them for a long time, you have no way of knowing if what they’re saying is true. There are plenty of people attempting to sell Law of Attraction and manifestation toolkits, guides, and programs online who haven’t actually had any real results from what they themselves preach. So, look to those that have demonstrably achieved the upper echelons of success and openly talk about their assumed reasons. Here are quotes from famous, successful individuals to remove any lingering doubt about the power within you…
Celebrity Law of Attraction Practitioners, in Alphabetical Order
Industrialist and Philanthropist
A captain of industry that amassed a fortune and then gave most of it away, endowing thousands of public libraries and multiple universities. Total charitable spending: the equivalent of today’s $78.6 billion…
I am no longer cursed by poverty because I took possession of my own mind and that mind has yielded me every material thing I want, and much more than I need. But this power of mind is a universal one, available to the humblest person as it is to the greatest.
Bodybuilder, Actor, Politician, and Businessman
The bodybuilding-phenomenon, box-office star, and governator isn’t shy about the process he used in every single one of his careers in life:
It’s the same process I used in bodybuilding: What you do is create a vision of who you want to be — and then live that picture as if it were already true.
Well I mean positively and negatively, I mean you attract, I mean not just what you fear, you attract what you feel, what you are.
Actor and Stand-Up Comedian
You may think the goofy guy got lucky and started making funny and weird films, but there is a lot more to this story that he isn’t afraid to talk about. Here is him talking about the power of visualization:
I would visualize having directors interested in me and people that I respected saying that “I like your work” or whatever that is. I would visualize things coming to me that I wanted or whatever, and I had nothing at that time, but it just made me feel better. At that time all it really was for me was making me feel better. I would drive home and think “well, I do have these things; they’re out there and I just don’t have a hold on them yet, but they’re out there.”
I wrote myself a check for $10,000,000 for acting services rendered. I gave myself 3 years and I dated it Thanksgiving 1995. I put it in my wallet and I kept it there, and it deteriorated… But then, just before Thanksgiving 1995 I found out I was going to make $10,000,000 on Dumb and Dumber.
…about us being reality-creators:
This insane belief in my ability to manifest things… I think it’s ultimately complete sanity, but I believe we’re creators and I believe we create with every thought and every word. Every moment is pregnant with the next moment of your life.
…and on feeling being the secret:
Total believer, yeah. I believe in manifestation… You get it when you believe you have it and that’s the key. People still sit around think “when’s it gonna come…” and that’s the wrong way. You’re facing the wrong way, you’re facing away from it. You have to go “it’s here, it’s here, it’s here.”
When asked during an interview about using “Champion 2011” as his signature, here’s what the youngest UFC Champ said:
I believe in the Law of Attraction and I believe that you can speak things into existence, and I believe that when you know where you’re going and you know what you want that the universe has a way of stepping aside for you. Me signing my signature with “Champion 2011” on it can’t hurt me. It can’t hurt me; it can only help me to believe it even more, you know? So, yeah, it works for me.
Mythologist, Writer, and Lecturer
Particularly famous for The Hero With a Thousand Faces and giving the Hero’s Journey (Monomyth) structure to most modern storytelling, especially in cinema, Joseph Campbell had this to say about our power to manifest reality:
Follow your bliss, and doors will open for you that you never knew existed.
Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls.
Kerri Walsh and Misty May-Treanor
The most successful female beach volleyball team in history
It’s a common thread that you read about and hear from sportsmen and women: visualizing their winning performance over and over and over again is what got them their medals and trophies:
To be able to … take in the sights, the sounds, the stress, the excitement — that’s going to serve us really well moving forward.
It’s sort of like a mantra. You repeat it to yourself everyday. “Music is my life, music is my life. The fame is inside of me, I’m going to make a number one record with number one hits.” And it’s not yet, it’s a lie. You’re saying a lie over and over and over again, and then, one day the lie is true.
The shuffling party-rockers hit it big and they’re not shy about giving praise to The Secret and the Law of Attraction for their continuing success, as well as some advice regarding the reverse side of the law:
…But at the same time it could be what you don’t want as well. “Why am I always broke? Why don’t I get girls?” So you’re gonna attract that. You’re imagining yourself being broke. You’re imaging yourself not attracting girls. And that’s gonna be your resolve. So if that law is true, then you might as well just think about what you want. In a nutshell, that’s what we did.
…Every song that I mix now – is it gonna go number one? And I’m seeing it number one and I’m listening to it. It’s like a fantasy. Always, constantly thinking about the stuff that makes you feel good now and that ‘feel good now’ – that, that’s your guide. That’s your compass. So if you’re not feeling good, you’re in the wrong direction.
Media Mogul, Talkshow Host, and Actress
One of the most famous – and wealthiest – women in the world, is a rags to riches story that has a strong Law of Attraction foundation. Oprah is a big advocate of The Secret and manifestation, promoting it and associated authors on her show:
Create the highest, grandest vision possible for your life, because you become what you believe.
In high school, I had this black composition notebook where I used to write down a list of goals: weekly goals, monthly ones, yearly ones, and one for my whole life. In there I had: get a record deal; have a number one song; have a platinum album; get a shoe line and clothing line; invent a dance everyone would do; get my mom out the hood; even little things like get a real watch or do all my homework. One day, I left the notebook in class and this dude found it. He read it out loud in front of everybody when I wasn’t there, trying to embarrass me. Mark my words, a year later, everything in that book had come true. I got the last laugh.
Actor, Stand-Up Comedian, and Talkshow Host
The big-smile, quirky-expressions, feel-good guy was candid about his belief in and practice of the Law of Attraction on one of his show segments:
[The Secret] is the most powerful book outside of the Bible that I have read in my life. The book is based on The Law of Attraction and how that principle – once you master it – can help you find wealth, happiness, better health, whatever you’re looking for, relationships.
Like Attracts Like. You have to understand: you are a magnet. Whatever you are, that’s what you draw to you. If you’re negative, you’re gonna draw negativity. You positive? You draw positive. You’re a kind person? More people are kind to you. … If you see it in your mind, you can hold it in your hand. This is so true.
Ask. Believe. Receive. So many people overlook this simple quality. You don’t have to figure it out. That’s what freezes people. When you’re trying to figure out your life all the way to the end, when you can’t figure you out, it freezes you from trying it, ’cause you go “oh I can’t figure it out, oh I can’t go there ’cause I don’t know how.” You don’t have to know how! You have to ask, believe, and receive. That’s as simple as it gets folks.
Gratitude is a Powerful Process. The only way to move to the next level is you must show gratitude for where you are. If you show gratitude, it gets you to where you want to be quicker.
Actor and Rapper
The Fresh Prince himself is adamant about our ability to manifest that which we hold in our thoughts and feelings:
We both believe, wholeheartedly, that our thoughts, our feelings, our dreams, our ideas are physical in the universe. That if we dream something, if we picture something, we commit ourselves to it and that it’s a physical thrust towards realization that we can put into the universe. That the universe is not a thing that’s going to push us around. That the world, and people, and situations are not things that are going to push us around. That we are going to… command and demand that the universe become what we want it to be.
Philosopher and Psychologist
One of the leading thinkers of his time was also leading the charge in exposing the power of thought in shaping our lives:
The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind.
These people achieved greatness. Will you?
Get rid of your doubts. With so many well-known names attributing their success to being able to manifest their desires through the Law of Attraction, you have no excuse to still doubt the power within you. Believe it, once and for all, and achieve the greatness that you know is yours. See it, feel it, become it.
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Successful. Satisfied. Searching. How do you see yourself?
Pull up a chair and take some notes.
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This post from LinkedIn contributor Gillian Zoe Segal appeared originally on LinkedIn.
For my new book, “Getting There: A Book of Mentors,” I spent 5 years interviewing some of the most successful people alive (Warren Buffett, Michael Bloomberg, Anderson Cooper, Sara Blakely, Jeff Koons, Kathy Ireland, Les Moonves, to name a few).
Here are the 7 things they all have in common:
1. They understand their “circle of competence.”
In his “Getting There” essay, legendary investor Warren Buffett explains that it’s essential to understand your strengths and weaknesses.
He relays that when deciding what to pursue, knowing what to leave out is as important as knowing what to focus on and quotes Tom Watson (the founder of IBM) who said, “I’m no genius but I’m smart in spots and I stay around those spots.”
Buffett explains, “My brain is not a general-purpose brain that works marvelously in all situations. There are all sorts of things that I’m no good at and there are all kinds of investment opportunities I’m not able to comprehend. I understand some kinds of simple businesses. I can’t understand complicated ones. Coca- Cola, for example, isn’t very complicated. It’s a durable product and the appeal is universal. I try to find businesses I can grasp, where I like the people running them and think the price makes sense in relation to the future economics.”
John Paul DeJoria, billionaire co-founder of the Patrón Spirits Company and John Paul Mitchell Systems, advises, “Do what you do best and try to find others who can fill in by doing the things you are not good at. For instance, I am terrible at details — accounting especially, so I hire accountants to help me. This frees me up to focus on the things I do excel at and I can run a more efficient operation.”
None of my “Getting There” subjects are good at everything, but they all became incredibly successful by honing in on what they excel at.
2. They harness their passions.
You’ve probably heard this before — and for good reason! The path to success is almost guaranteed to be arduous, but if you love what you do you’ll thrive on the inevitable challenges and have the stamina to achieve your potential. My “Getting There” subjects express that if you pursue something just for the money or because you “think you should” — it probably won’t end well.
World famous scientist J. Craig Venter (AKA the first person to sequence the human genome) says, “So many people get pushed along in the “system,” and because they don’t really know what they want to do, they practically let their careers be chosen for them. If you’re not passionate about what you’re doing, it’s hard to be successful at it. You can show up and do what’s required, and you can even do your job well, but that’s not where real success is going to come from. Success comes from doing something extraordinary with passion and intensity.”
World famous composer Hans Zimmer joked in his “Getting There” essay, “Whenever I need legal or medical advice I go announce my problems to my orchestra … Half are doctors and half are lawyers whose parents forced them into those jobs!”
3. Their career paths are fluid.
My “Getting There” subjects demonstrate that you don’t need to have your career all mapped out. What’s essential is to always keep your eyes open for new opportunities and be open to change.
▪ craigslist founder Craig Newmark stumbled upon his businesses while trying to pursue a social goal.
▪ Michael Bloomberg only decided to start his own company, Bloomberg LP, after being fired from his job at Salomon Brothers
▪ Jillian Michaels, who runs a health and wellness empire, dedicated herself to that field after being fired as a talent agent
▪ Les Moonves, the President and CEO of CBS, originally pursued acting, but eventually realized he would be happier on the other side of the camera
Moonves elaborates, “Things sometimes come at you and hit you in the face. If your path is rigid, you’ll likely miss out on opportunities … I shifted from acting to producing theater and realized it felt great. Before long, I shifted again and got my first job in TV as a development executive at Columbia Pictures Television.”
4. They create their own opportunities.
None of my “Getting There” subjects waited around for someone to recognize a talent in them and offer them a break. It would be awesome if the world worked that way, but unfortunately it rarely does. If you want something, you have to figure out a way to make it happen.
Anderson Cooper wanted to be a foreign news correspondent but couldn’t even get an entry-level job at any of the major networks. He ended up working as a fact checker for Channel One, an agency that produces news programs for high schools.
Cooper quickly realized that when you are at a job people tend to pigeonhole you in whatever role you are in — and sometimes you have to do something drastic in order to change people’s perception of you. So he quit his job, borrowed a friend’s video camera, and went overseas to shoot stories by himself.
Living on a mere five dollars a day, Cooper made his videos as interesting and dangerous as possible, then offered them to Channel One for such a low price that they couldn’t refuse. This bold move is what launched his career and enabled him to live his dream.
Cooper explains, “Had I asked the producers at Channel One if they would be supportive of my going out to make war videos, they would probably have said no. It’s easier to say no than it is to say yes, and they might not have wanted to feel responsible for me in any way. So I just did it. I rarely ask people for advice or permission when I’m planning on doing something I feel strongly about. That only opens the plan up to be crapped on.”
5. They question everything.
My “Getting There” subjects don’t blindly follow others. They think on their own and understand that just because something has been done one way for years doesn’t mean that it’s the best way, or that another way won’t work.
In the mid 1970’s Gary Hirshberg noticed that we were changing the way food was made, for the worse. (We were injecting our animals with hormones and antibiotics, spraying our fields and produce with toxic pesticides, and using chemical fertilizers, all with no real knowledge of what would happen to kids who grew up on a diet containing these things.)
Hirshberg started promoting organic food before most people knew what the word meant. He soon co-founded the organic yogurt company, Stonyfield Farms. He recalls, “When I tried to get retailers to carry Stonyfield yogurt, which was a little more expensive than the nonorganic brands, they’d say, ‘Does Organic mean it has dirt in it?’ It was difficult to get stores to carry our products.”
It took Stonyfield nine years to make its first nickel, but it is now the largest organic yogurt company in the world — and every large manufacturer in the food space has an organic product line.
Hirshberg says, “Challenging conventional wisdom can be scary, but most major changes happen because someone asked: ‘Why not do it differently?’ If you don’t ask, you don’t get.”
6. They don’t let fear of failure deter them.
My “Getting There” subjects know that trying new things is essential for growth and if you don’t take risks you will never get anywhere. As a result, they view falling down as just part of the process. As super-model-turned- entrepreneurial-mogul Kathy Ireland succinctly puts it, “If you never fail, it means you are not trying hard enough.”
Ireland failed for years at various start-ups (a microbrewery, a skin-care line, and several art projects), before finally launching her own brand, kathy ireland Worldwide. It is now a $2 billion enterprise with its name on more than 15,000 products.
Fitness expert Jillian Michaels elaborates, “No one likes to feel vulnerable, but the reality is that you can only know as much depth, happiness, and success in your life as you can know vulnerability. If you don’t ask out a girl or a guy on a date, you won’t get rejected, but you won’t fall in love either. If you don’t apply for the job, then you won’t get the position you want. If you don’t try to start your own business, then you’ll never be the entrepreneur you always dreamed of being.”
7. They are resilient.
** This one is the real clincher! **
Every single one of my “Getting There” subjects has failed, numerous times — but they found success because they were able to stand back up and try again, or learn from their mistakes and try something new. The point is, they forced themselves to keep moving forward.
▪ Author Jeff Kinney spent eight years writing his first “Diary of a Wimpy Kid” book only to have it rejected by multiple publishers. Abrams finally gave him a chance and there are now over 115 million Wimpy Kid books in print (not to mention the movies)
▪ John Paul DeJoria was fired from three jobs and lived in his car on two dollars and fifty cents a day. He went on to found John Paul Mitchell Systems and the Patrón Spirits Company
▪ After establishing his own architectural practice, Frank Gehry found himself on the verge of bankruptcy several times before reaching solid ground
▪ Matthew Weiner shopped his TV show around Hollywood, but it was rejected all over town. “Mad Men” finally made it to the screen seven years after it was written
I have come to compare life to a game of Whack-A-Mole. (You know that arcade game in which players use a mallet to hit toy moles back into their holes?) Well, life seems to whack us all over the head from time-to-time. In big ways and in small ways. In ways that have to do with our career and ways that have to do with our personal lives. They all intermingle.
My “Getting There” subjects are where they are today because, even after getting whacked multiple times, they found a way to lick their wounds then pop back up with a smile. This is what you must do in this world … so the next time you get a whack, recall a specific story that inspires you (“Getting There” is chock full of them!), then figure out a way to pop yourself out of whatever hole you happen to be in.
“Getting There: A Book of Mentors” is filled with inspiring anecdotes, actionable career advice, and wisdom applicable to life in general.
– Mandi Villarreal (www.arkfinancial.com)